Called in at work so now I getta watch the OTR tonight
Singing like Somebody put her through something
timmy from the playgound left her for another shawty cause she had more candy she aint been right since
pussy put his ass to sleep now he callin me nyquil
Coming out was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. That being said, coming out came with its fair share of struggles that I felt I had to navigate alone. To all the gay men who have just come out or are in the process of coming out, I hope this…
My latest for Huffington Post! I wrote this from the perspective of a gay male, but I hope anyone coming out or in the process of coming out might find it useful. Today, I am reminding myself to pay special attention to number 2.
2. You’re going to feel a lot of pressure to look a certain way.
It feels good to be looked at, especially now that you can look back. But you will quickly realize that the gay community seems to be populated with Calvin Klein models, and you might look at yourself and feel like you don’t measure up. There will be body types and molds that you will be told to strive for, and there will be pressure everywhere to conform. Trust me, gay media doesn’t help. But you need to remember that you’re fine just the way you are, and you should apply that positive attitude to the gay people around you.
6. Look out for your whole community.
Sometimes the G forgets the L and the B and the T. But try to remember, we gay men owe a great deal to lesbian, bisexual, and trans activists both past and present. Community is important, LGBT history is important, and while you may never understand the unique struggles of others you can still support them just as they’ve supported you.
*looks in mirror*
kinda just want a dick in my mouth
Nicki Minaj at Verace Fashion Show for New York Fashion Week
But women can never be careful enough, can we? If we take naked pictures of ourselves, we’re asking for it. If someone can manage to hack into our accounts, we’re asking for it. If we’re not wearing anti-rape nail polish, we’re asking for it. If we don’t take self-defence classes, we’re asking for it. If we get drunk, we’re asking for it. If our skirts are too short, we’re asking for it. If we pass out at a party, we’re asking for it. If we are not hyper-vigilant every single fucking second of every single fucking day, we are asking for it. Even when we are hyper-vigilant, we’re still asking for it. The fact that we exist is asking for it.
This is what rape culture looks like.
This is what misogyny looks like.
— nayyirah waheed (via nayyirahwaheed)
I knew it. I’m an Addams.